by Erika Townsend
Since I was a child, I have heard that the eyes are the windows to the soul. As I have matured, I have learned that the body has many revealing windows. The hard part is unlocking them. The way the body whispers who we are to the world is divulged in such a unique manner that we ourselves are sometimes unaware of all the secrets being told.
Throughout time science has given us glimpses into the windows of our inner selves. Recently, NBC’s “Today Show” had a segment called “His Cheatin’ Genes” about a recent Swedish study. Researchers there are studying what they call a “monogamy gene” to gain more insight into men and how they bond in relationships. The study found that husbands without the variant gene were more likely to be faithful and devoted to their wives and families. Conversely, the study indicated for the 2 out of 5 husbands that possessed that variant gene were more prone to cheat and to have marital problems that lead to divorce. These men were also more likely to live with women without any prospect of marriage. The study suggested that men who carry this gene could also be unable to commit and be lifelong bachelors.
That being said, with or without the gene, men in either group can be susceptible to cheating. The gene is simply a risk factor among many symptoms than a precursor to failed relationships. There are many other societal factors such as family history and environment that may have a greater impact on how one is able to build and maintain relationships. Although this may be an important finding, it is not all-conclusive finding. No one recommends that you base your relationships on this study.
Nevertheless, with 65% of marriages ending after infidelity and 70% of women unaware of their husband’s extramarital affairs, this is a topic that definitely deserves a closer look by women. Their reactions have spanned the spectrum of emotion. Some women felt that this was another excuse that allowed men to escape responsibility for their actions. They believed that even genetic proclivity did not overrule a man’s decision-making. Other women wanted to be able to have a test performed to see if their mate carried the variant gene, believing that if they could steer clear of potential hurt, the test would be well worth it. Finally, other women felt that they already had established trust in their relationship, and did not need to test their mate as a barometer of commitment. Ultimately, each woman who responded was choosing to empower herself and her relationships with the newfound information.
Since love is not an exact science, use this info as a key to unlock some of those windows in your relationship that you may have been scared to open.