by Erika Townsend
With Valentine’s Day falling on a Saturday this year, you have the entire weekend to celebrate your love with that special one. If you are looking to top the usual dinner and movie with an evening your husband or wife won’t soon forget, look no further. The following information is of an adult nature and intended only for the grown and sexy.
In researching for her book, Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, Dr. Elisabeth A. Lloyd, a biologist at Indiana University, found that only 39 to 47 percent of women have orgasms during intercourse. No wonder men are often insecure that women are faking it. More than half may be. In this case, women are not only selling our partners short, but missing out on our own pleasure.
So what are some things that we can do to increase our chances for bliss? There are some basics for everyone. First, get to know your own body. It is important to explore what turns you on. Men, this goes for you too. You can make your own discoveries about her desires while realizing your own. When you are both comfortable, you will be able to tell or show each other the various tempos and pressure points that will have your toes curling. This kind of relaxed exploration will also help during foreplay. This is a hint, men! Women will be more involved after fondling and kissing. Also, communication is vital. When you express what feels good through words or other methods, your partner will be more likely to do those things again.
With the basics in place, consider introducing a little something extra. Lubricants are common aids to pleasure in the bedroom. The important thing to know is that there are three main types of lubricants: water, oil, and silicone-based. Oil-based lubricants are known to breakdown latex condoms, so they are best for massaging, not protection. Water-based lubricants are gentler than the other two types but tend to dry out fast. Silicone-based lubricants are gentle as well, but are not for use with adult toys.
Although the above information is more geared for women, all the late night ads for products for men confirm that they have their own concerns. There are enhancers and topical creams that claim to reduce sensitivity and prolong the evening.
Both men and women can face issues with stimulation. Heighteners are products that are aimed at putting you in the mood. Some heighteners use mint compounds that claim to increase blood flow to the areas on which it is applied, elevating sensitivity.
The journey and responsibility are yours! These products and techniques are just the tip of the iceberg in regards to exploring your sexuality. There are many books and Websites that serve as guides on a couple’s intimate adventures. With a little research and an open mind, you can make your next experience out of this world!