By Dr. T
Time is a finite thing. There are 24 hours in a day and 168 hours in a 7-day week and that is all. We cannot stretch that into more days or into more hours. We all get what we get, no more and no less. When you factor in other variables such as predictive life expectancy and premature deaths, each individual’s allotment of time on this earth becomes even more precious as the days and hours come and go. Time is something that once it has passed you can never get back. There are moments and opportunities that are indeed once in a lifetime and others that will simply never happen again. And yet, how much of our time do we waste by lack of focus or purpose, or just by doing the exact same thing in the exact same way and expecting to get a different result? Or even worse, how much time do we waste on frivolous arguments, dead-end relationships or holding grudges? Time is so precious and we so often treat it as though it’s in infinite supply, jeopardizing plans and goals as well as relationships with family and friends. Holding grudges and taking offense are imminent threats to the time that we have and the time that we lose with each passing day.
Love, money, religion and politics are all factors that contribute to the relationship wars waged against our friends and family members on a daily basis. There are people who do not even speak to their mothers and fathers, to their own children or other family members and friends all because of some actual or perceived offense suffered at the hands of that loved one. Whether or not the offensive action actually occurred or was simply a misunderstanding or misinterpretation, the problem is time is passing you by while silence and separation is only producing discontentment, disillusionment, bitterness, and ultimately regret. Regret is the most unfortunate of outcomes because there really is no remedy for it. Time is the ultimate verdict whereas regret is concerned. In this case, TIME has already overtaken any opportunity to rectify the wrong or overturn the transgression by apology or reconciliation, because one or more of the parties involved have passed away or left the geographic location and permanently disengaged from the relationship. Time has irreparably changed forever our ability to reconcile the situation or transform it in some way that brings about resolution or closure. Regret stays with us forever as a thorn in our side and constant reminder of what could have been if only we had more time. The point is we are ALL allotted our portion of time and we do not get MORE!
In this most contentious of times where the push and pull of an extremely consequential election season – on so many levels – has taken us over, we need to STOP and reconsider what truly matters in this life. We need to re-examine our priorities and our belief systems. What do we stand for rather than what we stand against? Is the argument we are having right now worth the loss of a mother, father, sister or brother? Is the point of our contention so important that life-long friendships and loved ones can be sacrificed and forever lost to us? Will we regret the silence we maintain, and the time and distance we have put between one another? Will the days turn into months and years until it is too late to do anything but REGRET the things we said or did, and the opportunities we never embraced to change the narrative? Time is a terrible thing to waste, and the consequences can be devastating to the ones left behind. IJS (I’m just saying).